Every once in a while you read or hear something that stops you dead in your tracks. That’s how I felt when I came across the author of the book, The Invitation to Love, and read the passage that I have broken down for this blog. In fact, I was so moved by the author Darren Pierre, Ph.D. that I tracked him down and interviewed him within 24 hours of reading this passage. I hope you take the time to really sit with these words. Take a step back as the observer of your life as you read this, and apply it to EVERY relationship you have. This passage was a big part of our interview that airs tomorrow November 23rd. In Darren’s words:
What I have come to understand is that another person’s inability to master the wattage of his or her own light does not give me the permission to mismanage mine.
This is such a key point! Never alter your spirit, your energy, or your passion because you are worried about being judged by another.
In a space of faith, I have come to a place of peace, understanding that the same God who is committed to me living the fullest expression of my life is committed to those around me doing the same.
We all have the same amount of time in the day, we all have the ability to make a different choice, and we all have been given the gift of free will. Do not be an enabler to someone else’s story.
One thing I have come to know for sure is that the journey to let yourself be fully expressed, and the opportunity to manifest your greatest potential, can at times be lonely.
There is a reason I chose the logo I did for my podcast. (With my dear friend Deirdre’s help.) If you haven’t seen it, it’s a school of gold fish swimming in one direction and one black goldfish swimming in the opposite direction. You must be willing to go your own way if you are going to have a life of significance and honor your truth. Now, to be clear, I didn’t say it has to wind up that way… I’m saying you must be willing to swim in your own direction, if you find that you have little in common with the fish you have been swimming with – up to this point.
For in a world riddled with fear and insecurity, people can only celebrate others up to the point they can celebrate themselves.
We all have heard, “You cannot love another more than you love yourself”. But I have never heard it put the way Darren has put it. You MUST surround yourself with people who celebrate you, because they truly celebrate themselves, and vice versa. You are in the relationship you feel you deserve. That includes ALL relationships. And if you ultimately become your surroundings…make these decisions wisely. I hope you tune into tomorrow’s show. I think you will find Darren’s story and this book as thought provoking and inspirational as I did. You can also click on Darren’s photo above and you will be taken directly to his web-site.
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With gratitude for your light,